You deserve to be called a good girl in bed, even if you don't have a boyfriend.
You deserve to have your hair pulled, even without a partner.
You deserve O after O, even if you're not married.
You can follow the rules and wait for commitment to explore and enjoy your sexuality…
Or you can stop waiting and write your own rules.
You just have to do it intentionally.
Because there's a right way to do it… and a wrong way to do it.
And most women are definitely doing it the wrong way.
The wrong way leads to obsessing over who he's following on Instagram, staring at your phone because he hasn't texted in 3 days, putting your dating life on hold for a man who isn't even your boyfriend (while secretly hoping he'll become one), and feeling amazing in the moment… then empty in between.
confidently casual.™
The dating program for women who refuse to put their sexuality on hold while they're single.
If you're a lover girl at heart but horny as fuck, you need to date differently.
You deserve to have the hottest, happiest, and healthiest relationship you've ever had. And you also deserve an incredible sex life while you wait for that.
Consider Confidently Casual™ your step-by-step strategy for intentionally separating your sex life from your dating life, so that you can enjoy and explore your sexuality on your terms as you also date for partnership — without the messiness or drama.
Higher standards. Better men. Hotter sex. More fun.
This experience will revolutionize how you date and how you show up with men forever. And you'll fall even more in love with yourself in the process.
I want inWhat's considered "normal" dating in 2026 is bullshit.
"The bar is on the floor."
Accepting messy situationships and waiting around to be chosen.
Letting men who aren't respectful or communicative still have access to your body.
Having mediocre sex, your pleasure ignored completely, and calling it "fine."
Believing men have all the power when it comes to your sexuality.
We know the best of the best is available to us, even when we're single. And accepting anything less is a choice we refuse to make.
When it comes down to it, there are really only three ways to do single.
The most confident women…
- Know exactly what they want, and settle for nothing less.
- Say what they mean and mean what they say. They don't edit their words or hide their feelings based on what he might want.
- Know they're worthy of a man who chooses them fully and unquestionably, and walk away from any man who won't.
- Know their pleasure matters. They're not just there for his.
- Own that sexual compatibility is non-negotiable, instead of settling for whatever they get.
- Know the only opinion that matters about their sexuality is their own.
- Know they can't be used for sex, because they're not doing it for him. They're doing it for them.
- Know their biology doesn't override their fucking brain. They only get attached to the men who deserve it.
And you know who the most confident women deserve?
Because they exist. I promise you.
The masculine men who lead with confidence and are so attuned to you, they read your body like a book.
The men who actually communicate. Who tell you what they want, ask what you want, and listen to the answer.
The men who care deeply about your consent, and even more about your pleasure.
The men who make the plan, show up when they say they will, and leave you feeling more powerful than when you walked in.
My season of intentional casual sex showed me more of these men than I ever knew existed.
You haven't met them yet. Not because they're not out there, but because they're not on the path you've been on.
Enter the Confidently Casual™ Method
You're not just winging it. You're not hoping every man you get into bed with becomes your next partner.
You're clear and intentional, largely because you know every man you meet is going to fall into one of three categories.
Your King
The man who's aligned for partnership. Your attachment belongs to him and only him.
A Casual King
Great in bed, great company, clear and respectful. Not your person, and that's the whole point.
Not a king at all
No access. Period.
Here's the thing. Most women do this backwards. They sleep with him, then try to figure out what he is. Then they get attached to a man who was never their King, and they call it a situationship.
Nobody teaches dating like this. That's exactly why I built it.
Hi, I'm Sara.
At 36, I gave myself a gift: a season of intentional casual sex. And it became the most empowering, enlightening, and fun chapter of my life.
After a really tough breakup, I didn't date or have sex for five years. I threw myself into my business completely, worked my ass off, and made millions.
When I finally started putting myself out there in 2021, I dated like a "normal" person. Bumble. Playing the role of the proper lady. Believing I had to wait a few dates before I gave even a glimpse of my sexual side.
When I finally did have sex, my first two experiences were reallllly disappointing.
Immediately after, I had a FUCK THIS SHIT moment.
I recognized that I wasn't ready for a relationship, but I wanted SEX. And it had never occurred to me that I could enjoy my sexuality without having to date my way there.
Especially as an entrepreneur who's always in charge, I knew exactly what I wanted to experience: a man who knew what he was doing, could put me in my place, and help me turn my brain off and actually enjoy the pleasure.
So I literally Googled "how to find a dom." (Best Google search ever.)
It kicked off a journey I never expected.
Over the next few years, I gave myself permission to explore my submissive side, experience my first threesome, and even attend a few sex parties.
Every experience was fun. Every man (and the occasional woman 😉) was respectful. My consent and pleasure were always prioritized.
For the first time, I felt like my sexuality was truly my own. Something that made me feel powerful, rather than something I gave my power away through.
The past few years of being single have truly been the hottest, happiest, and healthiest of my life.
Largely because I've chosen to do single differently.
Confidently. Casually. Intentionally.
What we'll cover
Each lesson is 20–30 minutes: short enough to watch on your lunch break, juicy enough to use that night.
The Confidently Casual™ Method
Winging it is how you end up in a situationship.
The full method and every type of arrangement, so you're a woman with a plan instead of a woman with a "what are we?" text.
Your Desires, Defined
If you don't know what you want, how the fuck do you expect to get it?
Get clearer on what you want than you've ever been, from your future partner to the kinks you're curious about.
Communicate Like a Powerful Woman
50 dream men could knock on your door right now. If you can't ask for what you want, none of it matters.
Say what you want out loud, in bed and out of it, while staying soft and feminine.
Partnership as Your North Star
When you know who your person is, you stop trying to turn every man into him.
Get clear on what you want long-term, so what you want right now gets clearer (and hotter).
Finding Aligned Casual Partners
"Whoever's around" is not a standard.
Exactly which apps to use and how to navigate them, how to tell a Casual King from a dud in the first few messages, and the red flags that tell you he's not a king at all.
First Conversations + First Dates
Casual doesn't mean he gets to skip the date.
Flirt, text and meet in a way that makes the right men lean in, while you stay safe and in control.
Boundaries Before the Bedroom
The best casual sex starts with zero confusion.
Set expectations from the start, safe sex included, so it stays hot and nobody's guessing.
Staying in Your Power
The first few weeks are easy. Staying in your power as it evolves is the real skill.
Honor your feelings without opening the door to attachment, and walk away from every connection more powerful.
The Taboo Talk
You're curious, and you have nobody to ask.
Married men, sex parties and threesomes: what I've seen, what I've learned, and everything you want to know but won't ask anyone else.
You'll walk away from Confidently Casual™…
- Knowing exactly what you want, and saying it out loud without blushing or apologizing.
- Able to spot the men worth your time, and the ones who don't get access at all, before anything happens.
- Having sex that's actually about your pleasure, not sex where you wonder why you even showed up.
- Done checking his Instagram, waiting on his texts, and wondering what it meant.
- Done settling. Done normalizing a bar on the floor.
- More comfortable in your body and more confident in yourself.
- Leaving his place feeling more powerful than when you walked in.
- Feeling like your sexuality is finally your own.
- Actually enjoying single, instead of white-knuckling it until the right relationship shows up.
What's included
8 video lessons (20–30 minutes each)
Your step-by-step strategy for separating your sex life from your dating life, so you can enjoy and explore your sexuality on your terms, without the messiness or drama.
Supplementary materials for every lesson
Everything from discovery workbooks to copy-and-paste templates for the tough conversations, so you're never stuck wondering what to say.
Private podcast access
Every lesson in audio format, so you can listen on the go: in the car, on a walk, or while you're getting ready for a date.
3 live group coaching calls with me
Your chance to go deeper, get your exact situation coached, and ask me anything. (Yes, anything.)
[Dates coming soon.]
Instant access bonuses
As soon as you sign up, you'll get:
You're Fucking Welcome® Mini Course
Most confident version of yourself possible. Get sold on yourself and drop the shame around owning your sexuality, before Lesson 1 even drops.
Flirt and Filter
My sexy dating-bio workshop, so the right men find you and the wrong ones scroll right past.
30 days in a private Telegram group chat
Be one of the first 20 women to register and get 30 days of text and audio message access to me.
Bring your questions, your screenshots, your "is he a Casual King or not a king at all?" moments.
Not to brag, but access to my brain is worth thousands. It'd be crazy to miss this.
I want inWho this is for
- You just walked out of a marriage or a long relationship where you settled. You're excited to explore, and you have no idea how to do it without getting hurt.
- You're already having casual sex, and it's not working. You call it casual. Then you check his Instagram, wait on his texts, and walk away disappointed.
- You haven't had sex in a long time, and you're done waiting for a relationship to give yourself permission.
This isn't for you if you want someone to hand you a husband this year, or you want permission to sleep with anyone who asks. Confidently Casual is about intention, not quantity.
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Frequently asked questions
Can men join?
Not the live version. I want the coaching calls to stay a women-only space. Men, if you really want the digital version, email hello@sara-dann.com and we might be able to work something out.
I haven't had sex in years. Is this for me?
Assuming you want to have sex, yes. This is how you jump back in without wasting your time on disappointing sex, or getting attached to the first man you sleep with.
Is this a sex coaching program?
I spent 13 years as a business coach. My brain is strategic AF.
For those years, I focused on teaching women three things:
- How to market their businesses strategically
- How to express themselves both authentically and intentionally in their content
- How to do both without ever abandoning themselves
All with the energy of You're Fucking Welcome®.
Now I'm bringing those three skills to how I support you through dating, sex, and men.
So let me be clear: I'm not a sex coach, and I'm not a therapist. This isn't about technique in the bedroom or what's going to make you orgasm. Confidently Casual™ is a game plan for how you navigate dating, sex, and men in your power.
(And I want to be honest with you: if you've experienced sexual trauma or you're looking for deep healing work around it, this may not be the right space for you, or at least not the only one. Please give yourself the support of a licensed professional too.)
When do the lessons drop?
You get You're Fucking Welcome® and Flirt and Filter the moment you join. Lessons drop every other day starting November 28.
How long do I have access?
Lifetime access to the program, plus all future digital updates. If I run the program live again with new coaching calls, you'll have the option to upgrade and join them.
Is the Telegram group private?
Yes. It's limited to the first 20 women who register, and it's a confidential space. What's shared there stays there, and everyone agrees to keep it that way.
What's your refund policy?
There isn't one. This page breaks down exactly what you're getting, so read it before you buy. All sales are final.
The investment
- All 8 lessons
- Bonus Lesson 9: The Taboo Talk
- First 20 women only: 30 days in the private Telegram group with me
- You're Fucking Welcome® + Flirt and Filter, instantly
- Everything above
- A private call with me, so we apply all of this to your situation
This is the founding price. It will never be this low again. Doors close Black Friday, November 27.
A final note from Sara
Maybe you've invested in a million courses. Maybe you've never invested in yourself like this before.
Either way, hear me:
The months spent sad, frustrated, staring at your phone, wondering what you did wrong… they can be avoided. I believe that with every bone in my body.
You can't get back a year spent in three situationships.
You can't take a man off your list when the sex wasn't even worth it.
You can't undo the stress lines a man like that adds to your face.
But you can decide right now that you're done spending yourself that way.
Nobody teaches dating like this. Not your mom, not your married friends, and definitely not the "wait three dates" crowd.
You don't need another rule. You need to know what you want, say it out loud, and know exactly what every man is to you before he ever gets access to you.
You deserve pleasure now. You deserve the best of men. And you deserve to stop apologizing for wanting both.
How you date will change forever because of it.
I'll see you inside.
Sara
You're fucking welcome.
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