You’re a sexy, sexual woman. 💋
But somewhere along the way…you started feeling sexually invisible.
✦ Maybe your husband stopped touching you years before the marriage actually ended.
✦ Maybe you gained weight and stopped feeling like the woman men notice when she walks into a room.
✦ Maybe a breakup fucking gutted you, and hiding felt safer for a while.
✦ Maybe you poured everything you had into your career or business - and somewhere along the way, being successful became a bigger priority than feeling sexy, desired + alive.
Whatever happened, feeling desired, turned on + alive became less and less a part of your life.
You can walk into a room and feel smart. Successful. Capable. Pretty, even.
But you don’t feel sexual…and you fucking miss it.
You miss feeling wanted. Flirting. Being looked at like a man cannot wait to get your clothes off.
Maybe you had really good reasons for disappearing for a while. In fact, I’m sure you did.
But you know you don’t want to hide anymore.
Because there comes a point where “I don’t feel sexy” stops being an explanation of what happened to you and starts becoming an identity you’re CHOOSING to keep living inside.
You can keep waiting until you lose the weight.
Until you feel more confident.
Until you feel completely “ready.”
Until your business is fully figured out.
Or you can decide you’re fucking DONE waiting and ready to start moving differently.
Because the sexy, sexual version of you isn’t gone. She’s still in there.
it’s time to bring her back.
Introducing Sexy Back
A 21-day challenge to reconnect with your desire, reclaim the sexy, sexual woman who’s been in there the entire fucking time, and start showing up as her.
For 21 days, you’ll get honest about what you actually want, reconnect with the parts of yourself you’ve been hiding, and start moving through the world differently.
Because you can keep waiting until you magically feel sexy, confident and ready again - or you can decide you’re done hiding this part of yourself and start fucking living like her.
THIS is for you if…
💋 You’re starting over after a breakup, divorce, sexless relationship, or years without intimacy - and you’re fucking tired of feeling sexually invisible.
💋 You know there’s a sexy, sexual woman inside you, but you don’t feel like her right now.
💋 You ache to feel desired again - to flirt, date, be touched, have incredible sex, and feel fucking alive in this part of your life.
💋 You’ve become a woman you’ve never been before—and you’re ready to discover who she is sexually, what she wants now, and what dating, sex + desire get to look like from here.
💋 There are desires, fantasies, experiences, or sides of yourself you’ve never explored - and something in you is saying I fucking want to.
💋 You keep telling yourself you’ll put yourself back out there once you lose the weight, feel more confident, heal a little more, or finally feel “ready” - and you’re realizing you could keep waiting forever.
what to expect:
This isn’t a basic challenge where I tell you to buy a sexy new pair of underwear or order a toy. Oh no. We’re going MUCH deeper than that.
Over the course of 21 days, we’ll move through three intentional phases:
💄 DAYS 1–7: RECONNECT WITH HER
You’ll reconnect with the part of yourself that’s been buried underneath everything else - and start seeing yourself as the sexy, desirable woman you know you can be.
💄 DAYS 8–14: OWN WHAT YOU WANT
You’ll get honest about what you want now - what turns you on, what you’re curious about, how you want to feel, and what you want this next chapter of your sexuality to actually look like.
And you’ll start owning those desires instead of waiting for someone else to give you permission to have them.
💄 DAYS 15–21: MOVE ACCORDINGLY
This is where we stop only thinking about being that woman and start being her.
You’ll begin moving through the world differently - letting yourself be seen, flirting, expressing what you want, putting yourself back out there, exploring a curiosity, or taking whatever real-world action makes sense for you.
(And no, I am not challenging you to fuck 21 men in 21 days. But I AM challenging you to stop making yourself sexually invisible.)
HI I’M SARA
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a sexual person.
But being a sexual person and actually feeling like a sexy, sexual woman were two very different things.
I grew up overweight and deeply uncomfortable in my body - so uncomfortable that I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 22.
And my sexual experiences in my twenties did not look like carefree exploration. They were largely experiences that didn’t center me, my pleasure, or what I genuinely wanted.
Then, in my thirties, I spent five years in a relationship during which I gained approximately 100 pounds - and was ultimately cheated on.
When that relationship ended, I was devastated. I was so hurt and shut down that I didn’t date or have sex for almost five years.
I buried my desires. I numbed myself with work. And even as I built an incredibly successful business, I became sexually invisible.
I could feel successful. Powerful. Accomplished.
But I did not feel like a sexy, sexual woman.
Eventually, I got fucking tired of it and I decided to get her back.
So I started reconnecting with that part of myself. I got curious about what I wanted, let myself feel desire again, and started putting myself back out into the world.
Over time, my exploration took me places I never would have imagined. I had my first threesome, went to a few sex parties, explored my submissive side, and discovered desires I hadn’t previously given myself permission to experience.
Your version doesn’t have to look anything like mine. That’s the fucking point.
It was never about doing the wildest things I could think of. It was about asking myself what I wanted - and giving myself permission to find out.
And it became one of the most empowering journeys of my life.
It taught me to speak up. To ask for what I wanted. To feel freer in my body. To trust myself. And to stop making myself wrong for the things I desired.
Today, I don’t just own those desires privately. I talk about them publicly.
People judge me. People try to shame me. But I remain deeply rooted in who I am, what I want, and the woman I’ve chosen to be - and I refuse to abandon her for anyone.
And that’s what I want for you, too.
an important, transparent note
I’m a coach. I’m not a therapist, trauma specialist, or certified sex coach.
Sexy Back is designed to help you get in touch with your desires, stop making yourself wrong for what you want, express yourself more confidently, and begin taking real steps toward experiencing it.
It is not designed to process or heal deep sexual trauma.
If significant sexual trauma is at the center of your relationship with sex, this may not be the appropriate container for you. You deserve support from a licensed, trauma-informed professional who is specifically qualified to help you work through that experience.
WHAT YOU’LL RECEIVE:
💋 21 Daily Audio Lessons
Beginning Monday, September 28, you’ll receive one audio lesson from me each day to help you reconnect with your desire, get honest about what you want, and start showing up as the sexy, sexual woman you know is still in there.
💋 21 Daily Exercises + Challenges
Each lesson will include an accompanying exercise or challenge designed to take this work out of your head and into your actual life - so you’re not just thinking about feeling sexy again, you’re beginning to move differently.
💋 A Private Sexy Back Telegram Group
You’ll have access to a private Telegram group throughout the challenge for support, accountability, and real-time conversation with me and the other women inside.
This is where you’ll share what’s coming up, talk through the challenges, celebrate the moves you’re making, and maintain the momentum to keep showing up for the full 21 days.
💋 BONUS: Two Live Group Coaching + Q&A Calls
Monday, October 5 at 3 p.m. Pacific
Monday, October 19 at 3 p.m. Pacific
Bring your questions, what you’re exploring, what’s coming up for you, and anywhere you’re feeling stuck.
💋 BONUS: Write Your Sexy Dating Profile Bio
A training complete with prompts and guidance to help you write a bold, honest, magnetic dating profile bio - one that communicates what you actually want, captures who you are, and attracts the people and experiences you’re looking for.
PLUS: AN INSTANT ACCESS BONUS 💋
When you join Sexy Back, you’ll get immediate access to Confidently Casual, my masterclass on dating, having great sex, and exploring your sexuality on your terms - without the mess or drama.
Watch it now, start getting honest about what you want, and come into the challenge on September 28 already thinking about what you’re ready to explore.
Yours immediately when you join. A $77 value.
READY? LET’S DO THIS.
Or upgrade to VIP and receive the complete Sexy Back experience plus a private 60-minute coaching session with me.
All sales are final.
a final note from sara
Maybe you had really fucking good reasons for disappearing from this part of yourself for a while.
Maybe someone stopped seeing you.
Maybe you stopped recognizing yourself.
Maybe hiding was exactly what you needed.
But you don’t want to hide anymore.
You want to feel sexy. Desired. Seen. Turned on. Alive.
You want to discover who you are sexually now - what you want, what turns you on, what you want to explore, and what this next chapter gets to look like.
And yes, maybe you want a man to look at you like he cannot fucking wait to rip your clothes off.
You’re allowed to want that.
But you don’t have to wait for a man, a smaller body, another year of healing, or some magically more confident version of yourself to bring this part of you back to life.
She’s already fucking there.
Give me 21 days and we’ll bring her back. Ready?